Ungalokothi utshele muntu ngezinjabulo zakho ezilinde isikhathi eside. Abantu abazi ukuthi bangajabula kanjani ngokuphendula. Ukuzisola okukhulu, ukuhleka nokuxoxwa kweminye imikhakha yabantu kuyisiqalo sethu futhi akukhathaleki ukuthi kunzima kanjani kumakhelwane womakhelwane wakhe, into eyinhloko ukuthi utshani buya ensimini yangaphandle. Kusukela kulezi zibonakaliso eziningi zamehlo okubi zivela kowesifazane ngenxa yesifiso sokuhlanganyela ngempumelelo yabo.
Kakhulu kakhudlwana kuyabanjwa ngemuva kokudlulela. Uzizwa ujabule izolo, futhi kubonakala sengathi umhlaba wonke wawusezinyaweni zakho, futhi namuhla akumnandi.
Izimpawu zokuqala zeso elibi
- Ukushintsha okubukhali futhi, cishe, okungenangqondo esimweni sengqondo sokubi kakhulu.
- Ukunganaki izindaba, ukucasuka nganoma yisiphi isizathu, ngisho noma kungekho sizathu.
- Kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku, konke kuwela ngezandla ngomqondo wangempela wezwi.
- Owesifazane uhlakazekile, uphelelwe amandla, ungabi nandaba ngamahora.
Izibonakaliso eziyinhloko zamehlo omubi nokuphanga owesifazane zibonakala ebusweni emva kokulala ebusuku, ama-aches ahlangene, imizamo engaphumeleli yokulungisa izindaba zabo.
Konke lokhu okungenhla, kungukuthi, indlela elula yokususa. Impilo engafanele nokunganaki yizibonakaliso zokuqala zeso elibi, okungenzeka, lizodlula ngokwabo. Kodwa, uma abantu abanobukhwele beyithatha ngokungathí sina umqondo wokuchitha impilo yakho - qaphela. Naphezu kokuthi bonke "abatshakathi" abanjalo bazovuzwa, angifuni ngempela ukulinda esigodini sesibhedlela lapho lokhu kwenzeka.
Ungaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi iso elibi likuwe?
Ukuqothulwa kokubhujiswa, iningi labantu liya emidlalweni, kepha kunendlela, njengokungaziphathi kahle kanye nezibonakaliso zamehlo okubi ukuzihlola ngaphandle kokuchitha okuningi.
- Isiliva sishaya uma usigqoka.
- Izikhonkwane zivuliwe, amaketanga adiliziwe.
- Kukhona izingxabano nezihlobo ezingaphezu kwezintathu.
- Akukhona nje ukuthi ibhizinisi alihlanganisiwe, kodwa noma yikuphi izindaba ezishiya kwenzeka.
Uma ngabe usesimweni sakho esimpofu uthatha ifoni futhi ngokuzumayo uqaphele ukuthi awunawo muntu ongashayela ucingo noma wonke umuntu ombizile umatasa ngezindaba zakhe siqu futhi anakho konke ngaphandle kwakho, konke kuhle - lokhu ngokucacile yi-jinx yedwa, izimpawu zazo ezibonakalayo okokuqala kungabonakali, kodwa ngesinye isikhathi isithombe sibheke ngokugcwele emehlweni akho futhi uyaqonda ukuthi kwakudingeka ucabange ukuthi ungaba kanjani phakathi kokubheka ngaphambilini. Phela, isimo sakho sokucindezeleka simane siphenduka kanye nabangane nabantu obajwayele. Enye into, ngezinhlelo eziqinile, ungabi namandla, ngisho noma wena uqobo uthandwa ekukhulumisaneni, kodwa abantu abakuzungezile beka okuthile, futhi ekugcineni ushiywe wedwa. Kulesi simo, uhambo oluya esontweni noma indawo enhle kakhulu kuyosiza, lapho ungahlala khona uzondla ngamandla anamandla, ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ugcwele.
Yenza ubungane ngamanzi
"Ngamanzi we-goose, futhi nami nginamahloni" - hhayi isisho esilula sengane. Kungenxa yakhe ukuthi ungakwazi ukugeza izimpawu eziyinhloko zeso elibi. Uma unama-nightmares, ngokushesha ngemva kokuba uvuke (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubusuku noma ubusuku), hamba emanzini, faka izandla zakho futhi uthi amanzi aphuphayo azogeza konke.
Phuza amanzi amaningi - umzimba uhlanzwa ngokwemvelo, ngamanzi ashiya isikhumba nokuwohloka.
Yenza okuhle
Dlulisa ugogo wakho ngaphesheya komgwaqo, unikele nganoma yisiphi isamba, uqoqe abangane abangcono kakhulu endlini njengaleyo - sebenzisa i-karma yakho, ujabulele okwenzayo.
Khipha okubi
Ngokushesha, zama ukukhohlwa zonke izikhalazo nokuthethelela abantu, ngenxa yokuthi wakhala ngani. Zibophe ngamandla ngamandla okukwenza. Sonke asiphelele futhi wena ngokwakho uletha izinyembezi kumuntu. Ufuna ukuthethelelwa? Qala ukwenza lokhu kuqala ubone ukuthi kuba lula kanjani emphefumulweni. Futhi ngendoda efuna ukuqhubekela phambili, ngaphandle kokubukeza emuva emuva kwezikhalazo kanye nokuphazamiseka okudlule, eduze kwamandla amabi akulibalanga.