Ngokuzalwa kwengane, sinendima ebalulekile yomphakathi - indima yomama noma ubaba, okungukuthi, ngezinga elithile uba ngabafundisi. Kubonakala sengathi akekho ongakwazi ukubhekana nemithwalo yemfanelo yabo yabazali njengathi, ngoba sonke siyazi futhi siyiqonda ngomntwana wethu. Kodwa ake sizame ukubheka inqubo yezemfundo evela ngaphandle futhi sihlaziye ukuthi sibekezelela yini amaphutha acasulayo ukuze singalilili elahlekile.
Ukulinganisa amaphutha avamile emfundweni nemiphumela yabo:
1. Ukungavumelani . Lena iphutha elivamile kakhulu. Uma ingane ishayise ikhala layo, abazali bayamgxeka bese bexwayisa ngazo zonke izinhlobo zemingcele. Kodwa isikhathi esithile sidlula, nomama, sikhohlwe ukuthi usanda kusongela ingane, ukukhansela ukuhamba epaki noma ukubukela izithombe, njengokungathi ukhohlwa ngesithembiso sakhe, kuholela ezikhangayo noma kuhlanganisa uchungechunge lwe-cartoon.
Imiphumela : ingane ikhula ngokwayo, iyeka ukuthatha ngokungathí sina amazwi abazali bakhe. Kuvela, njengokusho kwesaga: "Inja iyabamba - umoya uyagqoka".
2. Ukungavumelani kwezidingo ezivela kubantu abadala . Ngokuvamile kukhona isimo lapho umntanakho emndenini kunemfuno ehluke ngokuphelele, isibonelo, umama ufuna ukuthi ingane ihlanze amathoyizi emva komdlalo, futhi ugogo ahlanzeke. Ngokuvamile izingxabano mayelana nokufaneleka kwesinye noma esinye isikhundla ziqhutshwa ngokuqondile nezingane, emkhakheni womndeni ophikisanayo ohlangene.
Imiphumela : ingane ingakhula njenge-conformist, ivumelane nemibono yabanye. Kungenzeka futhi ukubonisa ukungabi nhlonipho kumzali, isikhundla sakhe ingane ebona ukuthi ayizuzisi.
3. Isimo sengqondo esingavumelani nomntwana . Kuvame kakhulu emindeni ehlanganisa ingane nomama ongayedwa. Umama bese ewanga umntwana, edlala naye, bese evala yena, engaqapheli ingane yakhe, khona-ke uyakhala futhi amthukuthelele.
Imiphumela : umuntu onamahloni ongakwazi ukuqondisa ukuziphatha uzokhula. Ngokuvamile kukhona inqola evela kumama ngenxa yokuthi ingane azi ukuthi yini okufanele ilindele kuyo.
4. Ukuyala . Ingane yenza lokho akubheka kuyadingeka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imiphi imibono nezifiso zabantu abakuzungezile. Isibonelo, lapho ehambela, uqala ukucela ukuthi bamnike into emnandi, nakuba ephoqelekile, futhi abanikazi bayayithanda, noma ngesikhathi sekuseni ngeSonto e-cafe, baqala ukugijima ehholo, behlupha abanye abantu abaphumula. Abazali bomntwana onjalo baqala ukuphazamiseka: "Ngakho-ke? Ungumntwana! "
Imiphumela : uqinisekisiwe ukuthi ukhula u-double egoist nomuntu othukayo.
5. Uphuhliwe . Kubonakala eqinisweni lokuthi abazali baqhubeka njalo mayelana nengane, begcwalisa zonke izifiso zakhe, ngokuvamile ngenxa yokuphulwa kwezithakazelo zabo noma izintshisekelo zabanye.
Imiphumela : Lokhu okungaqondakali kwemfundo kuholela ekutheni ingane ikhula yodwa futhi ingenangqondo.
6. Ukucindezela ngokweqile, ukuqina ngokweqile . Kumfuno ezingathandwa kakhulu ezinganeni azithethelelwe ngenxa yama-pranks namaphutha angenabungozi.
Imiphumela : ukungabi nokuzethemba, ukuzethemba okuphansi , ukuvame ukuphelela, okungaba umthwalo ongenakubekezelela umuntu okhulayo.
7. Ukungabi uthando . Ukuxhumana ngokomzimba kubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu omncane, noma kunjalo, njengomuntu omdala. Ngeshwa, ngezinye izikhathi abazali bacabanga ukuthi akudingekile ukukhombisa imizwa yethenda yengane.
Imiphumela : ingane ikhula ivaliwe, ingathembeki.
8. Izifiso ezingenamkhawulo zabazali. Abantu abadala emndenini bazama ukuqaphela ngomntanakho lokho abakwazi ukuzifinyelela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayathandeka yini nezifiso zabo. Isibonelo, bayinikezela ukubhukuda ukuze bangahlakulele ngokomzimba futhi baqinise impilo yabo, kodwa kuphela ngenxa yokuthi bafuna ukwenza iqhawe emntwaneni wabo.
Imiphumela : uma ingane ingakhangwa lo msebenzi, ke, uma ikhulela, iyophikisa nganoma iyiphi indlela. Uma lo msebenzi uyakuthanda, kodwa akahambisani nezifiso zabazali bakhe, khona-ke ukuzethemba okuphansi, ukuzithemba kungakhiwa.
9. Ukulawula ngokweqile . Umuntu kufanele abe nesikhala esithile ukuze akwazi ukuzikhethela. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bazinaki ngokuphelele izifiso zomntwana, belawula noma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kokuphila (khetha abangane, ukushaya izingcingo zocingo, njll.)
Imiphumela : njengokwesikhashana esidlule, ukuphikisa ngokumelene nokugcinwa okungadingekile ngendlela yokushiya ekhaya, ukuphuza utshwala, njll.
10. Ukufaka indima . Kuvame ukubhekwa emindenini lapho omama bengashadile noma kungekho ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo phakathi kwabazali. Umama uqala ukukhuluma ngokuhluleka kwakhe, uxoxe nabanye abantu, ukubeka izinkinga, ekuboneni ingane engakalungi.
Imiphumela : Imithwalo yemfanelo engokomzwelo yengane ingabangela ukungabi naso nokungafuni ukuhlala, ibanga elifanele phakathi komuntu omdala nomntwana lizosuswa.