Yingakho bonke abazali besenza isinqumo sokungabhukuli izingane zabo ngaphambi kokulala, noma kunjalo, babhekana nobunzima obuningi. Ingane, eyake yalala isikhathi eside kuphela ngosizo lwale ndlela, ayiqondi nje ukuthi umuntu angalala kanjani ngendlela ehlukile. Izingane ezisanda kuzalwa zizwela ngokuphawulekayo kunoma yiziphi izinguquko ezimpilweni zabo, ngakho-ke, izinto ezinjalo zabazali, zingakwazi ukumelana nokuqina okuqinile.
Abomama nabathandekayo abaningi abanothando nabanakekeli abakwazi ukubekezelela ukukhala okukhulu komntwana wabo, futhi okwenzekayo uma bezama ukumbeka elele ngaphandle kokugula, ngakho-ke baqala ukukwenza futhi, njengangaphambili. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi esikhathini esizayo kuyoba nzima nakakhulu ukuguqula umntwana, noma kunjalo, njengokungamxosha kule nqubo eyinkimbinkimbi.
Kulesi sihloko, sizokutshela indlela yokubeka umntwana osanda kuzalwa ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, hhayi ukumbangela ukuhlukumezeka okukhulu kwengqondo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ukufeza ukulala okunempilo nokuzwakalayo nokunciphisa kakhulu umthwalo esikhungweni somswakama nesishukela somama osemncane.
Indlela yokubeka izingane ukuba zilale ngaphandle kokugula okuhambayo?
Okokuqala, udinga ukwakha ukulandelana kwemikhuba ethile, ngosizo lwaso olungakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi isikhathi sokulala siseduze. Ngakho-ke, ngokwesibonelo, ungenza ukuhlunga okulula okuphumuzayo njalo kusihlwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, bese uncelisa noma ukhethe amakhemikhali, ufunde inganekwane noma uhlabelele i- lullaby, ukuze ingane ilale kancane kancane.
Yiqiniso, okokuqala isinyathelo sokugcina kuzodingeka senziwe ngesikhathi esisodwa ngokugula okuhambayo, kodwa kancane kancane ukubaluleka kwalesi sici kuzokwehla. Lapho umntwana eqala ukubopha zonke ezinye izinqubo ngokulala, ukunyakaza okuzulazisayo kungasuswa.
Sicela uqaphele ukuthi uma wenza isinqumo esinjalo, akufanele uphinde uphume kuwo. Uma kungenjalo, uzobe ubeka ingane yakho iphuzu, ngoba angeke akwazi ukuqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo kuye, futhi uzokhungatheka nakakhulu. Ungesabi ukukhala nokuhlukunyezwa kwendodanakho noma indodakazi yakho, ngoba awuphoqeleli ukuba enze into engenakwenzeka. Ukuzilala ngokweqile kuyinkqubo ngokuphelele yemvelo etholakala kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka engakanani.
Njengomthetho, imizamo yokuqala yokubeka imvuthuluka yokulala ngale ndlela ithatha isikhathi eside. Uma ingane yakho ibhekana nokuphikiswa kwayo imizuzu engaphezu kwengu-50-60, uphindaphinda umkhuba wokulala. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukubeka ingane ingalali ngaphandle kokugula, ekugcineni kuyophumelela, futhi ingane yakho ngeke ilale kuphela, kodwa izolala kakhulu kakhulu kunangaphambili.
Abazali abaningi baqala "ukubuyisela" indodana yabo noma indodakazi yabo kusihlwa, lapho iziqu zomzimba sezikhathele futhi ngokwemvelo ziveza ama-hormone okulala. Yingakho imizamo yokuhlwa kusihlose ukuthuthukiswa okuhlanganyelwe kwekhono elisha kuyokhiqiza kakhulu.
Noma kunjalo, lapho ingane ifunda ukulala yedwa kusihlwa, qiniseka ukuthi uyayijwayele kulokhu nangosuku. Ukukwenza lokhu kungase kube nzima nakakhulu, kodwa kuphela ukuze ulethe ingane yakho izidingo ezintsha.