Ngokuvamile abesifazane abasoze basolise ukuthi kukhona into ebizwa ngokuthi amanga (ukulungiselela, ukuqeqesha). Ngakho-ke, lapho ngenyanga yesishiyagalolunye yokuqeqesha ukukhulelwa (ebusuku noma kusihlwa) ngokuzumayo bafica omama abazayo, baqala ukwesaba. Kubonakala kubo ukuthi ukuzalwa kwaqala ngaphambi kwesikhathi noma ukuthi into engavamile eyenzeka nengane, ngakho baya kudokotela. Eqinisweni, umsebenzi wamanga ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuyinkqubo yemvelo yokulungiselela umzimba ukubeletha futhi akufanele kubangele ukukhathazeka uma iqala ukuzibonakalisa ekupheleni kwethemu (kusukela ngeviki lama-37). Ngokwezinye izazi, ukulwa okuqalwa kuqala kuvela ngesonto lokuqala lokukhulelwa, kodwa ezikhathini zokuqala, ngenxa yokuqina kwabo, bavele bengaboni.
Ngokuvamile ukudukisa ukulwa kwamanga emavikini angu-40, lapho isikhathi sokuzalwa sisondele kakhulu. Kubonakala kubesifazane ukuthi sebevele bebeletha. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukwazi ngokuqinile ukuthi ungayahlukanisa kanjani ukulwa okulungiselelwe kusuka kwangempela.
Indlela yokuhlukanisa phakathi kokulwa ukuqeqeshwa?
- Izikhathi ezithile phakathi kokulwa okunjalo azinciphi. Ngesikhathi sokuhlukunyezwa komsebenzi, izikhathi phakathi kwazo ziyancipha njalo.
- Ukuqeqeshwa ukulwa kukhona ukulwa, okungavamile, kuyilapho okwejwayelekile kubonakala nge-cyclicity.
- Ukulwa nokulwa kunamahloni, futhi ubuhlungu bokubeletha buhambisana nokuzwa okubuhlungu esiswini.
- Thola ukuthi ukuqeqeshwa kungaba kanjani nokuthi kungakanani okugcina (ukukhohlisa amanga okungapheli kwemizuzu emibili, futhi ngisho namasekhondi ambalwa). I-Generic, ngokungafani nabo, ihlala isikhathi eside.
Ngezibonakaliso ezichazwe kungenzeka ukubona, ukulwa kwamanga noma okwamanje. Kodwa-ke, ukubeletha kakade sekuphikisa ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuphazamisa ukuqala kwezimpi zangempela nanoma yini enye.
Yini okumelwe uyenze ngamaphuzu amanga?
Abesifazane ngezindlela ezahlukene bahlushwa ukuqeqeshwa ukulwa. Omunye uzwa nje ukuhlukumeza esiswini, kodwa kumuntu obangela ukungajabuli okukhulu. Kwezinye izimo, omama abakusasa abaqapheli ngisho nokuqaphela ukulwa futhi bakholelwa ukuthi babengekho. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akunjalo, umzimba kunoma yikuphi ukulungiselela ukubeletha, ngezinga elithile lokubonakaliswa kwangaphandle.
Uyazi kakade ukuthi unquma kanjani ukulwa kwamanga. Uziphatha kanjani ukunciphisa ubuzwe babo? Uma, ngesikhathi sezinyathelo zamanga, ukuzwa okuba buhlungu, okulandelayo kungakusiza:
- zama ukuphumuza, ulale (mhlawumbe ngakwesokunxele);
- uma isimo esingezansi singabi ngcono, mhlawumbe kufanele, ngokuphambene, hamba ukuhamba emoyeni omusha;
- batha noma ugeza (okubaluleke kakhulu, akushisi);
- uphuze amanzi noma ubisi olufudumele.
Odokotela bayeluleka ngokuqala kwemizabalazo yamanga ukuze bangachithi isikhathi, kodwa baqale ukulungiselela ukubeletha. Qeqesha amasu okuphefumula owaziyo, bheka ukuthi ukhululekile. Konke lokhu kuzosiza kakhulu uma uthola umsebenzi wokuqala wangempela ekubelethweni.
Izinyathelo ezingeziwe zokulwa ezilungele ukulungiselela lokhu zingase zibe yizici ezilandelayo:
- umsebenzi owedlula ngokweqile esibelethweni;
- isilazi esigcwele;
- ethinta isisu;
- ukuphelelwa amanzi emzimbeni;
- ubulili.
Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukukhwabanisa kwamanga ungakwazi ukwamukela izibhamu zangaphambi kwesikhathi ezingasongela umntwana. Udinga ngempela usizo lwezokwelapha oluphuthumayo uma:
- Ukulwa kuphindwa kaningi (izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesine ngomzuzu), kanti imvamisa iyanda sonke isikhathi;
- Ukuphambana kunzima kakhulu kangangokuthi kunzima ukukhuthazelela;
- ukukhishwa okungavamile kusuka kwesifazane;
- kukhona umuzwa wokucindezela ku-crotch.