Ukuvimbela ukuziphatha kokuzibulala kwentsha

Iminyaka yesikhashana yisikhathi esinzima empilweni yengane yakho, kanti ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nezingane ezithule kakhulu nezilalelayo ziqala ukushintsha kakhulu ngalesi sikhathi. Lokhu kubangelwa "iziphepho" zomzimba zomzimba emzimbeni, nokuvuselelwa kwengqondo, okuphoqa indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho ekhulile ukuba iphindze iphindze indawo yayo emhlabeni bese inqume ukuthi ungubani. Ngezinye izikhathi kuhlotshaniswa nokucindezeleka okukhulu, ngakho-ke abazali kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi mayelana nokuvimbela ukuzibulala kwabaselula. Umfana noma intombazane ngezinye izikhathi abakwazi ukubhekana nemizwelo yabo, futhi lokhu kungabangela usizi.

Izici ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuzibulala kwabafana

Ngezimbangela eziholela ekulimaleni okukhulu ngisho nokufa esikoleni esiphakeme, kufanelekile ukugqamisa lokhu okulandelayo:

• intukuthelo kwabanye, ukuhlukaniswa komhlaba jikelele kanye nesizungu okuhambisana nokungaqondi kahle kwentsha;
• ukunganeliseki nawe; ukuzisola nganoma yisiphi isenzo, ukutholakala kwezinkimbinkimbi mayelana nokubukeka noma ukuxhumana nabangane;
• ukwesaba ukujeziswa;
• uthando olungathandeki (yingakho ukuvimbela ukuzibulala kwentsha esikoleni kudingekile: ubuhlobo obuningi kule minyaka buboshwe phambi koothisha);
• ukungabi nokuqonda kwabathandekayo, ukulahlekelwa kwabo, ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali babo ;
• ukwesaba ukuxhashazwa nokuhlazeka kwabalandeli;
• isifiso esiqhubekayo sokunakwa, isifiso sokwenza uzwela noma ukugwema imiphumela yesimo esingathandeki;
• ukulingisa abalingiswa bombhalo, amaqhawe amafilimu noma ontanga.

Yini ehlanganiswe ekuvimbeleni ukuziphatha kokuzibulala ebusheni?

Ngeshwa, ngisho nabazali abanothando kakhulu abakwazi ukufakazela ukuthi umcabango wokuya ezweni elizayo ngeke uvakashele ingane yabo kulesi simo noma leso simo. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngesikhathi sokuguquka, ngisho nesimo esicindezelayo ngenxa yokungazinzeki kwengqondo kungabangela impendulo enganele. Ngakho-ke, cabangela izincomo kubazali ngokuvimbela ngokuphumelelayo ukuzibulala kwentsha:

1. Yichitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka nengane yakho emdala, mbuze ngebhizinisi lakhe, izifundo, abangane. Uma indodana noma indodakazi yakho izokuthembela, ekuqaleni uzobona izimpawu zokuqala zokuzibulala: ukucindezeleka, izinguquko ekuziphatheni, ukungabi noxhumana nabangane, ukukhuluma njalo ngokufa. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ekuvimbeleni ukuziphatha kokuzibulala kwabaselula.
2. Nika ingane yakho ukuthi iqaphele ukuthi uyamamukela njengoba ekhona, noma ngabe wenza iphutha futhi wenza into engalungile. Into ephawulekayo ekuvimbeleni ukuziphatha kokuzibulala phakathi kwentsha ukuzimisela ukusiza uma insizwa noma intombazane ikhuluma ngqo ngokuzibulala. Ukuhleka usulu noma ukungathathi amagama la mazwi ngokungathí sina - into embi kakhulu ongayenza ukuze uphonse ekufeni ngokuzithandela.
3. Funda ukulalela ngokucophelela. Ngezinye izikhathi isigamu sehora, esinikezwe ukuzwa emlonyeni wengane, ukuvuma ukuthi kubi kangakanani, kungasindisa izimpilo.
4. Ungaphikisani nomntwana ocabangela ukushiya leli zwe, bese ubuza imibuzo eholayo. Ukuvimbela ukuzibulala kwezingane nentsha, kuyadingeka ukukhipha noma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kobudlova kumuntu omdala ongase ahlaselwe futhi aziphathe ngendlela engafanele lapho ekhuluma ngokuzibulala njengendlela yokuxazulula izinkinga.
5. Ukunikela ukucabanga ndawonye ukuthi uphume kanjani esimweni esinzima. Kuzo zonke izincomo zokuvimbela ukuzibulala phakathi kwentsha, lokhu kunzima kakhulu ukusigcwalisa, kodwa ukufaka esikoleni esikhungathekile esikoleni ithemba elingcono kakhulu yindlela yokwakha eyakha izithelo.