Amaphupho ethu angamangala futhi adlale, ngoba ungabona izindaba ezinjalo nezimo ezingenakwenzeka empilweni yangempela. Kodwa-ke, zonke iziphupho zihamba ngokwalo uhlobo oluthile lwolwazi, isixwayiso noma isixwayiso. Kuyinto engavamile ukuzibona ephusheni eliphunyuka ebhere, kodwa lokhu kwenzeka kaningi.
Kungani uphupha lokubalekela ibhere?
Iningi lezincwadi zephupho linencazelo yalo, kungani owesifazane ephupha ukuthi uyagijima ebhere , kodwa ngokuyisisekelo bonke abalobi bayavuma ukuthi iphupho elinjalo liyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Phela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ibhere liwuphawu lomzimba onamandla, amandla, ukungabi nalutho, ngakolunye uhlangothi, lesi silwane sibonisa ukuhlakanipha.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu, ukucacisa, lapho uphupha khona ukuphunyuka ebhere, kuxhomeke nokuthi kwenzekani empilweni yomuntu okwamanje. Kwabesomabhizinisi, okwamanje abakhulayo futhi bathuthuka, iphupho elinjalo lingasho ukutholakala kwezifiso ezimbi nezimpikiswano, ezingabangela izinkinga eziningi. Kodwa abathwali nabesifazane abangashadile abashadile abangeke bakwazi ukuthola umlingani womphefumulo wabo nokwakha umndeni, ukulala kuthembisa ukugcwaliseka kwephupho elibalulekile. Esikhathini esizayo esiseduze, impilo yakho yomuntu siqu izoba ngcono.
Uma owesifazane okhulelwe ephupha ukuthi uyagijima emabhere, angabonakalisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kumntwana ozayo. Kubantu abazwelayo abane-psyche enesibindi, ukulala kusho umzabalazo ongaphakathi, ukungqubuzana nawe. Kungenzeka ukuthi maduzane kuzodingeka unqume ngesinyathelo esibalulekile noma uthathe isinqumo esinzima, esingeke sigwenywe.
Kungani intombazane engashadile ephupha ukubalekela ibhere ithathwa ngokuhlukile ngokutolika abaphupha ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ngezibonakaliso ezidumile kuyisibonakaliso sokuba khona kwesitha noma umphikisana. Izincwadi zamaphupho zanamuhla zivame ukuchaza iphupho elinjalo njengokubalekela ekuphikeleni
Kukhona incazelo yalokho akuphuphayo ukubalekela ibhere kanye nencwadi yezingane iphupho. Lona umphumela wesigameko esibonwe ku-ifilimu noma isiqephu esivela emlandweni wezingane, lapho ibhere libonakala njengesilwane esibi nesesabekayo. Ukwesaba kule nkinga yanoma yiziphi izinkinga kungekho sizathu.
I-Psychoanalysts ithi ukuthi ukubona ibhere ephusheni, kokubili owesifazane nendoda, kusho ukuthi ucansi kulindeleke endaweni ethile engavamile. Ngokuvamile umuntu angahlangabezana nokuchazwa okunjalo: ukubalekela ebhere ephusheni - ukuwohloka kwempilo noma izifo ezimbi. Lokhu akusikho ukuhunyushwa okulungile. Kodwa qaphela, noma kunjalo, kuwufanele.