Umbuzo wokuthi abazali kufanele balele nengane noma ukuthi kungcono yini ekuqaleni ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokwehlukana kusekhona imbangela yezimpikiswano eziningi. Abahlengikazi, izazi zengqondo nabazali bahlukaniswe ngamakamu amabili: abanye bathi ukulala okuhlanganyelwe kusiza ingane ukuba ihlaziye, iqiniseke futhi ikhule ngokushesha, kanti abanye bayavumelani ngokuphikisana, ukuphikisa ukuthi ngokushesha ukujwayela ingane ukulala esitokisini kulula kunokuba "ukufuduka" , lapho umntwana ekhula.
Ake sicabangele izimpikiswano eziyinhloko zombili zombili.
Ku:
- ukulala okuhlangene nabazali kuyanciphisa umntwana, kumenza azwe evikelwe. Ubuye azuze omama abancane, abavumele ukuba bangagijimi kasikhombisa emcimbini wengane;
- elele ubuthongo nonina, umntwana uzizwa ephefumula, i-palpitation nephunga. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ezinganeni ezisanda kuzalwa, okwathi kwaze kube yilapho nje bekunye nomama. Ukwamukela ukulala okuhlangene kusho nokusikeka kwayo - zonke izilwane ezincelisayo zilala kuphela nezingane zabo. Akekho ozophikisana neqiniso lokuthi ukufudumala kokubeletha nokunakekelwa, ukuhlala njalo naye kubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana ababuthakathaka nabangaphambi kwesikhathi, kanti futhi kuyindlela enhle kakhulu yokugqugquzela i-lactation.
Umthengi:
- esinye sezimpikiswano ezinzima kakhulu ngokumelene nengozi yengozi. Ngokuqinisekile, izinhlekelele zalolu hlobo zivame kakhulu, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukukhipha lokho kungenzeka. Ingozi iphakama uma omunye wabazali ethatha amaphilisi okulala noma ekhathele kakhulu - ezimweni ezinjalo, ubuthongo buba lukhuni kakhulu, futhi ingozi yokuphoqa ingane embhede noma "ukulala" iba phezulu kakhulu. Akudingekile ukuba ulale nomntwana nalabo abalala ngokuphumula, kuvame ukuguqula noma ukuhambisa izandla noma izinyawo zabo ngokuqinile - kulula kakhulu ukulimaza usana ephusheni.
- ukulala ngokuhlanganyela nezingane kungalimaza ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi emindenini lapho, ngokubonakala kwengane, upapa uqala ukulala ngokwehlukana, eshiya umbhede womshado umama nengane. Lokhu kumenza abe nomuzwa wokuthi "wesithathu ongenakuqhathanisa" futhi ngokushesha uzoba izinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo. Uma ubaba ehlala elala nomkakhe nengane, cishe, ukuphumula nokulala ngokugcwele, ngeke aphumelele. Uthando ngomntwana luya kancane kancane emadodeni, futhi okokuqala luyoba nomhawu ngomlingani kumntwana (kaningi ngaphandle kokuqaphela lokho). Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukulala okuhlangene cishe kuhlale kunqatshelwe ukulala ocansini nomyeni. Kunzima kakhulu ukugcina isigqi sokujwayelekile sokuphila kocansi, uma ingane ilala nabazali bayo ubusuku bonke.
- ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezijwayele ukulala nabazali babo, kuncike ekuthembekeni kwabo okuqhubekayo, izingane ziqala ukuxhaphaza bobabili umama nobaba, zifuna ukunakwa kwazo njalo nokuba khona kwazo.
Indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ilele esibhedlela?
Cabanga ngemigomo eyisisekelo yokukhulisa ingane ekulaleni ndawonye. Uma ufinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi ingane ikhulile ngokwanele ukuze ulale ngokuhlukile, ungabuyeli phansi futhi uhambisane. Lungiselela ukuthi ngeke kube lula: ezinye izingane zincoma izinsuku ezimbili noma ezintathu, kanti ezinye zihlela abahlukumezi abanobudlova, bezihlupha kanye nabazali bazo. Uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi zonke izindlela eziyaziwa ukuthi ungafundisa kanjani ingane ukulala, usuphelile kakade futhi usuzoyeka ukuyeka futhi uvumele u-crumb aqhubeke elala nawe, cabangela ukuthi ngokuziphatha okunjalo uvumela ingane ukuba iqonde ukuthi amahlaya nokukhala siza ukufeza okufunayo. Ungangabazi, esikhathini esizayo ingane izoba kaningi futhi ibe yinto engenangqondo futhi ehlaziywayo, ephethe ukuhluleka kwakho ukuhlala njalo nokuphikelela.
Khumbula: isinqumo senziwe, futhi kufanele usilethe ekugcineni. Kodwa ungasheshisi kakhulu, yenza konke kancane kancane ukuze ingane ingesabi futhi inesikhathi sokujwayela izinguquko. Qala ukubeka ithoyizi phakathi kwakho nomntanakho. Ekuqaleni ubeke isikhala esiseduze nesakho ukuze ubone ukuthi ingane ilele kanjani, futhi umntwana, evuka ebusuku, angakubona. Kancane kancane ususe ingane ibhekwe eceleni kwakho. Ukubeka imvuthu ukuze ulale, khuluma naye ngezwi elithule, elithulile, ungamemeza ukuthi akasithathi ubuthongo wedwa njengesijeziso.
Uma umntwana ejwayele ukulala ngokwehlukana, susa isikhalazo singene esibhedlela. Ungashintshi amasiko ngaphambi kokuba ulale - vumela ithoyizi lapho ingane ilele khona izobe iseduze nayo ebusuku. Ukubeka umntwana, khuluma naye, ubambe ngesibambo, tshela izindaba, - yenza konke okufana nesikhathi esidlule. Kunconywa ukuthenga isibani sasebusuku, ukuze uvuke ebumnyameni emanzini, i-crumb ayizange ibesabe. Ungesabi ingane ngezindaba ezimayelana nezimbongolo nezinye izilo zobusuku - lokhu kuzosiza kuphela okwesikhashana, futhi kamuva kuphela
Izingane ezindala (iminyaka engu-4-5) zithola kunzima ukuchaza ukuthi kungani zingakwazi ukulala nabazali babo, kanti umfowenu noma udadewabo omncane angakwazi. Kulesi simo, zama ukusebenzisa ukuhamba okuphazamisayo - thenga ifenisha enhle yezingane - ngendlela yomshini wokubhala, indiza (yomfana) noma indlu yenkosikazi yezinganekwane (intombazane). Kungcono uma umntwana ngokwakhe ekhetha udoti. Cabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi iphupho elihlukile njengelungelo elifinyeleleka kubantu abadala kuphela, vumela ingane iziqhenye ngokuzimela kwayo.
Uma nje ingane iqonda ukuthi abazali abahlosile ukubuyela emuva esinqumweni sabo, uzobuyisana, futhi uzolala ngokuzodwa.