Ngokuvamile, izingane zihlala nonina, futhi obaba abaningi ngesikhathi esifanayo benza konke okusemandleni abo ukuze bagweme ukugcinwa kwemvuthu kanye nokusebenza kwemithwalo yabo yomzali. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, kunezinye izibonelo lapho amapapa abathandayo, abathandekayo nabathandayo ephikelela ukuthi ingane ihlale nayo.
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi kwezinye izimo, abesifazane abakhathazeki ukukhulisa ingane, futhi bayayinika umzali wesibili ngenjabulo. Ngokuvamile, umndeni ngamunye unemibono ehlukene, futhi isidingo sokushiya ingane nopapa singasuka ngisho nomama ophumelelayo kakhulu.
Kulesi sihloko, sizokutshela ukuthi ungayishiya kanjani ingane noyise ehlukanisweni, uma umama engenalo ithuba noma isifiso sokukhulisa ingane yakhe yedwa.
Kanjani emva kokuhlukanisa ukushiya ingane noyise?
Njengoba kuphawuliwe ngenhla, ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabashade nabantwana abangaphansi kweminyaka engu-18 eRussia nase-Ukraine kwenziwa kuphela yinkantolo. Ukushiya indodana noma indodakazi noyihlo, kuzodingeka uqinisekise ngesikhathi sokuhlukanisa ukuthi kunezimo ezifana nalezi:
- indlela engafanele yokuphila komama futhi, ngokuphambene nalokho, inhlalakahle kayise;
- ukuphepha ngokwezimali kwepapa, umsebenzi ozinzile nokuthola imali engenayo, lezi zici zizokwazi ukuqinisekisa izimo ukuthi uyise wengane unamathuba amaningi okugcinwa kwawo;
- ukuba khona kwengqondo engavamile kumama, kanye nokukwazi kwakhe okulinganiselwe ukwenza okuthile;
- izinga lokuzibophezela kukababa ngomntanakhe likhulu kunalowo umama;
umjikelezo womsebenzi womama, ngenxa yokuthi angeke akwazi ukunakekela ingane efanele; - isifiso somfana oneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-10 ukuhlala noyise nokuzihlanganisa kwakhe okuqinile noyise.
Lapho inkantolo idlula isinqumo sokushiya indodana noma indodakazi nopapa, umama akalahlekelwa ilungelo lokumfundisa futhi unomthwalo wokunakekela ingane kanye noyise. Uma amaqembu ehluleka ukuvumelana eyedwa, inkantolo inganquma ngokwengeziwe isimiso sokuhambela umama nendodana yakhe noma indodakazi yakhe, kanye nokubuyiselwa okuvela kumakhelwane wakhe ukugcinwa kwengane kuze kube yiningi.