Kunezikhathi lapho ukuthula nothando emndenini kuqhubeka khona kuze kube sekuzalweni kwengane. Kodwa lapha owesifazane omncane omlindelwe, omnandi, omnene, ofudumele wazalwa, futhi umfazi, owezolo nehora elilodwa akakwazanga ukuhlala ngaphandle komthandekayo wakhe, ngesibindi uqonda ukuthi emva kokubeletha kuyeke ukuthanda umyeni wakhe. Uthando lwakhe lulungele ukunikeza ingane, futhi yena, okwakusanda kuwukuthi empilweni yakhe empilweni yakhe, ubangela ukucasula nje, ngisho nokuthinta kwakhe kuba okungajabulisi kakhulu. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka, nokuthi yini okumelwe yenziwe ngakho, ngoba sikhuluma ngokulondolozwa nenhlalakahle yomndeni?
Ngokuvamile, umcabango wokuthi owesifazane osemusha uyeke ukuthanda umyeni wakhe ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane kuyisenzakalo sesikhashana: uyaqonda indima entsha kumama, futhi lokhu akudingi isikhathi nje kuphela, kodwa nokuqwashisa ezingeni lezingqondo. Ngemva kwesikhashana, konke kuzokwenzeka; Kubalulekile ukuthi oshade naye aqonde isimo somkakhe, ahlale ekhathalela futhi enakekile futhi abe nokubekezela, okuzobe sekuvuzwa ngokushesha.
Enye into uma kuziwa enkingeni enkulu: owesifazane wayeka ukuthanda umyeni wakhe ngemva kokukhashelwa kwakhe. Uma ngaphambi kwalokho umndeni uhlala, njengoba bethi, umphefumulo emphefumulweni, uma umfazi emthanda umyeni wakhe futhi emethemba, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kubonakala, futhi kunzima kakhulu ukudlulisa. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nasesimweni esinzima kakhulu kunendlela yokuphuma. Thola akulula, ngakho-ke uma owesifazane engamthandi umyeni wakhe futhi engazi ukuthi benzeni, iseluleko sezengqondo sizosiza ukuthola isinqumo esifanele.
Yini isazi sezengqondo eseluleka?
- Ungasheshi ukuvula umnyango: qala ukuzola phansi, ngoba i-hysteria ayilona umsizi kuleso simo, futhi khumbula ukuthi yini enhle ngokuphila kwakho ndawonye. Futhi, naphezu kobuhlungu nentukuthelo, cabanga ukuthi kufanelekile ukubulala empilweni yakho ukukhanya okukubophayo.
- Ingabe konke kubi kakhulu? Phela, akekho oshonile, ikhanda, izingalo, imilenze - endaweni, okusho ukuthi kukhona indlela yokuphuma.
- Ungabheke ukuqinisekiswa kotshwala - akukhona.
- Thembeka wena ngokwakho: ziphendule ngokwakho, uyathanda umyeni wakho. Futhi uma impendulo ilungile, umthethelele, uhambe ngaphezu kokuhlazeka, izinyembezi nokufutheka . Kodwa uma usithethelele, ke ungahlaziyi futhi ungakhumbuli ngaso sonke isikhathi.