Kuzo zonke izinhlobo zeseveli zesevisi, mhlawumbe eyingozi kakhulu ukuthandana nomuntu omelela phezulu emkhakheni wezemisebenzi. Ekugcineni, uma into yokunamathisela ingu-engineer ovela emnyangweni oseduze, ingase ibonwe ngabalingani nabo ngendlela ehlukile.
Inveli enomqashi yinto emangalisa kakhulu, efaka izinkinga ezinkulu emsebenzini, futhi nje isimo esingathandeki, uma ungaphumelelanga. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale udaba lothando nomphathi wakho, kufanele ulinganise konke ngokufanele. Noma yiluphi uthando lungavinjelwa ekuqaleni kwesikhashana futhi lunganakwa. Kodwa uma ubeka imizwa ukuhamba, futhi wafunda ukuthi bayabambisana, uzobe usukhulile kakade ukuma. Ngakho zama ukucabanga ngezinto ngokusebenzisa:
- Uma kukhona amahemuhemu ehhovisi ukuthi unesibambisene nomphathi, lokhu kungase kungabi yindlela engcono kakhulu yokucabangela idumela lakho nobuhlobo neqembu.
- Ukuthandana nomqashi oshadile ezikhathini eziningi kusho ukuthi uzokukhokhela isikhathi esincane futhi ungalokothi ube ngowakho. Ingabe kufanele ngichitha isikhathi kuso?
- Ukuthandana komsebenzi nomphathi kungaba usizo kumsebenzi wakho kanye nomholo wakho, kepha uma usuqedile, uzothola esimweni esingenakuvikelwa.
- Uma ngabe umphathi ukhululekile futhi yena ngokwakhe ekunika izibonakaliso zokunakekelwa, kufanele usheshe uthathe isinqumo sokuthi uyayamukela yini noma uyayilahla. Kukhona amacala amaningi okushushiswa amadoda, futhi akusiyo njalo intombazane.
- Cabanga njengomdlali we-chess, abambalwa abahamba phambili. Yini okungenzeka ukuthi ngenxa yale nveli ngeke kudingeke ushintshe umsebenzi wakho esikhathini esizayo? Uma indawo yokusebenzela iyabiza, udinga ukuyihlola ngokucophelela.
Kunoma yikuphi, uma uqondiswa ukuqonda okungajwayelekile, hhayi okuvela emabhalweni wezinganekwane nasezinkundleni zothando, khona-ke ungakwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuhlola isimo bese unquma ukuthi umdlalo ufanele yini lelikhandlela.